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英语翻译Whendopeopledecidewhetherornottheywanttobecomefriends?Duringtheirfirstfourminutestogether,accordingtoabookbyDr.LeonardZunin.Inthebook,Contact:TheFirstFourMinutes,heoffersthisadvicetoanyoneinterestedinsta

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When do people decide whether or not they want to become friends?During their first four minutes together,according to a book by Dr.Leonard Zunin.In the book,Contact:The First Four Minutes,he offers this advice to anyone interested in starting new friendships:Every time you meet someone in a social situation,give him your undivided attention for four minutes.A lot of people’s whole lives would change if they did just that.
When we are introduced to new people,the author suggests we should try to appear friendly and self-confident.In general,he says,:People like people who like themselves.
On the other hand,we should not make the person think we are too sure of ourselves.It is important to appear interested and sympathetic,realizing that the other person has his own needs,fears and hopes.
But isn’t it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-confidence when we won’t actually feel that way?Perhaps,but according to Dr.Zunin,“total honesty” is not always good for social relationships,especially during the first few minutes of contact.There is time for everything,and a certain amount of playing to complain about one’s health or to mention faults one finds in other people.It is not the time to tell the whole truth about one’s opinions and impressions,
The author declares that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school,along with reading,writing,and mathematics.In his opinion,success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.That is at least as important as hoe much we know.
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人们会在什么时候决定是否要成为朋友呢?是在他们相处的前四分钟,根据Leonard Zunin博士写的一本书所说的.在这本书里,前四分钟,他会对任何人发出开始新的友谊的提议:每次当你在社交场合遇到某人,都会给他4分钟的完全注意力.如果很多人都按照这样做,他们的一生都会为此改变.
当我们被介绍给其他人的时候,作者建议我们尝试表现出友善和自信.总的来说,他说“人都会喜欢自爱的人”
另一方面,我们不应该让别人认为我们过于自信.表现出兴致并富有同情心是很重要的,要意识到其他人也有自己的需求,恐慌和希望.
但是在我们并不真的友善和自信的时候却做出这样的表现会不会是不诚实的呢?也许吧.但根据Zunin博士的话,“完全诚实”并不一定是处理社交关系的最好方法,尤其是在接触的前几分钟.总有一些时候我们会对某人的健康有一些微词,或是发现别人身上的缺点.但(在刚开始的几分钟里)还不到时候来表达对别人看法和印象完全真实的看法.
作者称每个学校都应该把人际关系作为一门必修课程来教授,和阅读,写作,数学等一样.他认为,人生是否成功最主要取决于我们如何与他人相处.至少这点的重要性不会亚于我们的学识.